The 2.5 WPF Club.

I just celebrated the birthday of my favorite book "Pride and Prejudice". It seriously does not get better than Jane Austen. Keep trying Nick Sparks. To celebrate the special day, a literary friend of mine posted a vlog called "The Lizzie Bennett Blog". It was a modern twist on the beloved Bennett sisters. Very Carrie Bradshaw meets Elizabeth Bennett.

In the vlog, Lizzie brought up how her mother is only focused on her being married and becoming part of the 2.5 WPF Club.

What is the 2.5 WPF Club? I'm so glad you asked.

To be a member of this elite club, one must be married, have 2.5 kids, and live in a house with a white picket fence.

That's all folks.

The concept behind such a club rings true in our society. Excuse my hint of feminism, but women have become much more independent in my generation. No more just waiting around the house, prepping our hair, cleaning the perfect house, and fixing the Food Network worthy meal for our hard working husband. Women are working during the day, as well. Or at night. Or both. It's not even a feminist issue. The economy hasn't left us with much of a choice, honestly.

The independent, working girl gig is how I prefer things. Don't get me wrong. There is NOTHING wrong with women who just want a family to care and love on. I admire and respect that. Your 2.5 WPF pin is in the mail.

The real problem I see, is the balance in all this mess. When one does find true love and is ready to settle down, how do you find the right amount of balance of independent and dependent?

While my mother isn't as pushy as Mrs. Bennett, she does want me married and happy. She's always saying, "Kelly, it's going to hit you hard girl." I know she's right. It's happened before. Hence, why I want to be prepared.

If you're too independent in a serious relationship, it makes the man uncomfortable. In my last relationship, I kept doing everything how I always had. I quickly realized my boyfriend was starting to feel threatened, for lack of a better word. My time was not made for him. My focus was not on him. I'm a driven redhead. My bad. So I changed my approach. I picked up dinner, I helped him finish his projects. Guys...I played Halo with him. The things we do when we're in love.

However, I still didn't have balance. The table just tilted the other direction...drastically. I completely lost myself in him. I became a boyfriend pleaser. I was doing almost all his projects, spending all my time with him, changing my job for him. What happened to Miss Independent?

So I humbly ask...what is the key to holding the balance? To making sure both parties are still themselves while working together and depending on one another?

Lesson learned: This is a working progress. But I will not be a member of the 2.5 WPF Club anytime soon.